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GOD HAS A DEFINITE PLAN for our marriages.1 According to Scripture, marriage is a covenant relationship which establishes a bond between a man and a woman that is dissolved only when death causes the inevitable separation. The Biblical description speaks of a deep and lasting intimacy and commitment, a bond between us and our spouses that is compared to the union between Christ and His Church.2
For a number of reasons, maintaining the health of our marriages is vital for those of us who are serving the Lord in the ministry.
First, marriage and family issues are specifically addressed in the description of qualifications for a bishop, pastor, or elder. Those who serve in leadership roles in the church are to be “blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour….one that ruleth well his own house” (1 Timothy 3:2, 4).3 If we cannot successfully interact in our own homes, how can we lead the Church?
Maintaining a good marriage is also important in terms of our personal spiritual well-being. The Bible instructs men to keep their marriages in order that their “prayers be not hindered” (1 Peter 3:7). As we labor in the field of ministry, there will be many times when we need to pray for divine help and guidance. When such times come, it is imperative that nothing hinders our prayers.
In 1 Peter 5:3, the Apostle Peter points out that those in positions of spiritual authority are to be examples to the people. The pastor’s marriage is expected to serve as a model of a functioning Christian marriage. As others observe our relationships with our spouses, our love and commitment to each other should be evident.
Finally, as ministers and pastors, we must keep our marriages strong because the success of our relationship with our spouses will have a direct impact on the success of our ministry. Paul said, “Be ye followers of me, even as I also am of Christ” (1 Corinthians 11:1). Our worldwide work will only be as strong as the marriages of the ministers of this work.
Some ministers have asked, “Which comes first, our marriage or our ministry?” Perhaps the best answer to that question is, “They are inseparable.” To sacrifice one for the sake of the other is to damage both.
Problems arise when we fail to see the importance of the partnership which we entered into with our spouses.
Though the demands upon a minister or pastor’s time are significant, we must take great care not to neglect our marriages because of our responsibilities in the Lord’s work. When we accepted the divine call to the ministry, we were aware that the work of the Lord would entail certain duties and obligations. When we entered into the covenant of marriage, we were aware that marriage would entail certain duties and obligations. It is vitally important not to compromise our commitment in either of these areas of our lives. Whether we have been married for five years or fifty, we need to continually make an effort to strengthen and cultivate our relationship with our spouse.
There are a number of ways we can do this.
Make a definite and ongoing commitment to the success of our marriage. Our marriage relationship must be a top priority in our lives. A relationship is a work in progress, and it needs attention and effort to develop and maintain.
Resolve conflict in a godly manner. It is inevitable that conflict will arise on occasion—we should not expect to agree on everything. An important part of resolving conflicts is being respectful of our spouse and acknowledging his/her feelings. It is important to keep in mind Biblical principles of kindness, patience, and treating others as we would have others treat us.
Communicate carefully. Communication can be destructive or productive, so we should do our best to speak directly, clearly, honestly and respectfully. Ephesians 4:29 establishes the principle of communication that edifies. This involves listening to each other without judgment, and focusing on what our spouse is saying, as well as expressing our own feelings in a positive, godly way. And sometimes we must learn to simply refrain from speaking, asking God to “Set a watch…before my mouth; keep the door of my lips” (Psalm 141:3).
Make time for each other. If we wait for a convenient season, it will never come. Time must be set aside to be with our spouses—even written into our schedule if need be! Remember, the marriage commitment can be damaged by over-commitment and fatigue. It is important to reserve time and energy for our spouse.
Cultivate spiritual unity. Spiritual unity enhances romance, and there are steps we can take to deepen our fellowship. Make it a practice to pray together. Reading the Bible together, discussing spiritual concerns or insights, sharing spiritual goals, and worshipping together also unites us.
Pay attention to each other. As the years come and go, it is easy to become complacent in our relationship and take our spouses for granted. Make it a point to notice and celebrate each other’s accomplishments, and support each other during the good times and the hard times.
Esteem and appreciate each other. It is always best to focus on our spouse’s strengths instead of his or her weaknesses. Paul reminds us in 1 Thessalonians 5:11, “Edify one another.” Simply saying a sincere “thank you” can go a long way toward making our spouse feel special and appreciated.
Have fun together. Ecclesiastes 9:9 says, “Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest.” Be fun to live with! Make good memories with each other, and rehearse those memories often.
Show affection. Ephesians 5:25 says, “Husbands, love your wives…” Notice that this is a command! Some may think they are not naturally demonstrative, but anyone can learn to be affectionate. We should both show and verbalize our love for our spouse every day.
Recognize differences. We need to realize that our spouse’s physical and emotional needs are different from our own. Men and women are different because God made us that way! We must learn to respect those differences and accommodate them.
Be willing to compromise. Negotiation is important in any relationship, but it is especially important in marriage. When we differ on an issue, we should discuss the problem calmly and look for ways to meet each other somewhere in the middle.
Practice forgiveness. There may be times when our spouse makes a mistake or says or does something hurtful. If we constantly rehearse past offenses, it is difficult to have a mutually loving relationship. Colossians 3:12-13 provides a good guideline: “ Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering; forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.”
Pray for each other. There are never-ending needs in the ministry and in the family of God. However, our responsibility to hold our spouse up in prayer should come first. Their strength, stability, encouragement, and spiritual walk with God should be just as important to us as our own. There are few things more encouraging than the awareness that our mate, who loves us as no one else does, prays for us as for himself or herself.
In conclusion, we must never allow the pace of ministry to distract us from our spouse, the one we have promised to cherish “until death do us part.” Care, sacrifice, and nurture must be at the heart of our marriages, so that we not only sustain each other but bear witness to the church and to the world of the reality of Christ and His presence in our lives.
1 For more on the topic of marriage, see the section of this Ministers Manual titled The Sanctity of Marriage.
2 See Ephesians 5:22-32.
3 See also Titus 1:5-9.
PARENTING IN THE PARSONAGE is much like parenting in any godly Christian home. As ministers and pastors, we face the same issues that parents in our congregations face when it comes to family relationships. We need to find ways to communicate with our spouses, train our children, deal appropriately with our schedules, and face challenges in a godly and overcoming manner.
However, just as ministers and pastors face some specific issues in keeping their marriages healthy, there are specific challenges related to raising families while serving in full-time ministry. There are also distinct opportunities! As we consider these unique aspects, we can be assured that just as God called us into ministry, He is involved in the lives of our family members. Our spouses and children are not incidental parts of our lives. They are vital pieces in God’s design for our labor for Him, and have a role to fill in the particular church and time in which we minister. That is one reason why maintaining healthy family relationships is so important for those in the ministry.
The Word of God offers other reasons as well. Managing our families well is specifically mentioned in the requirements of a bishop, pastor, or elder. An individual who serves the church in any of these roles is to manage his household well, “having his children in subjection with all gravity; (For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?)” (1 Timothy 3:4-5). Of course, the time comes when our children assume direction of their own lives. However, careful guidance of them during their formative years is imperative, as indicated by Paul’s insistence that it is a minister’s duty to control his children.
We also must lead our own families well in order to serve as a model to those in our congregations. Paul told Timothy, “Be thou an example of the believers, in word, in conversation [behavior], in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity” (1 Timothy 4:12). That exhortation would certainly include being an example in our home and family life. Our lives are the most influential sermon we will ever preach, so it is vital that we set a good example in this area.
The fact our children are related to the pastor does not take away their normalcy nor their individual personalities and traits. It also does not insulate them from the issues that any young person faces in life. Thus, we must invest time and energy in building a healthy home life. Like all Christian parents, we need to focus on key principles of successful child rearing such as love, example, discipline, protection, consistency, and availability.
Some simple “do’s and don’ts” for parenting in the parsonage can help us navigate the unique aspects of pastor/family relationships successfully. First, let us look at some things we should do:
Be careful when discussing church members. We want them to love and respect the saints of God, so it is important to speak positively about our congregations in front of our children, whether they are toddlers or young adults. As little ones grow older, they will learn that everyone is human and that we all have strengths and weaknesses. Even then, we must be careful not to talk condescendingly, disrespectfully, or judgmentally. It is important to focus on the good qualities of people, and guard against focusing on problems and concerns.
Strive for balance. Although the demands of ministry exist, secular employment also makes demands. In either case, Jesus did not ask us to labor at the expense of our families. There is no requirement to choose between our family and our flock. Rather, we need to concentrate on finding balance. Jesus sometimes “withdrew himself into the wilderness” (Luke 5:16), retiring from the crowds and the demands of ministry for periods of prayer and personal refreshing. We must develop that ability as well, though we keep in mind that the ministry does at times require self-sacrifice and putting others’ needs ahead of our own.
Encourage participation in church activities. We should do our best to provide opportunities for our children to be engaged in the Gospel work and church activities. Make appropriate aspects of ministry an enjoyable family activity just as you would enjoy each other’s company at a purely recreational activity. One minister took his young son on occasional visitations, and found that patients enjoyed the child’s company as much as the pastor’s! Learning music is a wonderful way to encourage future involvement. Visit other branch churches when possible, and promote friendships between your children and the young people in those churches. This is especially important if there are few peers their age in their home church.
Emphasize the positives of being a pastor’s family. Although there are responsibilities in being a part of leadership, there are abundant privileges also, and we should do our best to place emphasis upon this aspect. For example, pastors often can arrange their daytime schedules to accommodate their child’s activities. Not all parents can do that! Our children will have the opportunity to develop friendships with the young and the old, with pastors and Gospel workers from other cities, and with many saints of God who can be inspirations and examples to them. They will visit churches and meet people they might never have visited otherwise. Along with these physical advantages, our children have a valuable opportunity to see faith at work in the lives of others. When God answers prayer and moves in the lives of congregation members, the extra spiritual proximity to such outpourings can be of tremendous spiritual benefit to our children.
Compensate for the negatives. Our children will learn that sometimes life in a pastor’s home requires sacrifice on the family’s part. We should express appreciation for their cooperation when schedules need to be adjusted or plans temporarily set aside because of an urgent need in the congregation, and look for ways to compensate. If we are called to serve as a pastor in a remote or rural area, feelings of loneliness and isolation can be real issues that call for our innovation and creativity as parents. Since under these circumstances, family life is the social life, capitalize on this to build close relational bonds through shared memories.
Schedule time for family. As pastors, we generally have flexibility in how we schedule our time. If we build family outings, one-on-one celebrations, and annual vacations into our schedule, putting them on the calendar just like any other appointment, this will indicate to our children that we place a real value on spending time with them. Then, when parishioners call for an appointment that is not an emergency, we can schedule these around the times already set aside for family.
Expect some opposition. Those who lead will face opposition. Jesus did. The disciples did. At times the occasional criticism that comes our way will be warranted, but at other times it will be without merit. Our families will be unaware of details but will always be concerned for us and observant. Therefore, we must respond in a godly manner, without letting it affect our spirits. We can set a positive example before our families of being longsuffering, patient, and kind—and then they will benefit rather than being negatively impacted.
Set boundaries. Set and clearly communicate boundaries to your church family to protect your family time. Our homes are our place of refuge, and it is not necessary to post an “open house” sign on the front lawn. Naturally, a good minister will always respond to genuine emergencies. However, it is important to define an emergency. If we are candid with our congregation about our need to set aside time blocks for our families, this will diffuse misunderstandings before they develop and often prevent disappointment regarding our availability.
Learn to say “no.” Depending upon personal temperament, we may be inclined to say “yes” to every request, or to take upon ourselves every task in the church that is not being done—or done “right.” This approach to serving can seriously affect our family life. We should learn to delegate responsibility as needed, and take the time to train, empower, and encourage others to participate around the church. Not only will this give us more time with our family, but it will give others the opportunity to enjoy the blessing of serving.
Encourage everyone in the family to fill their designated role. Family unity is not fully possible unless each member is filling the role designed for them by God. As pastors, we depend upon our spouses for support, encouragement, and understanding. Our spouses depend upon us for attention, conversation, encouragement, and spiritual leadership. Our children depend upon us for nurture, teaching, protection, provision, and a godly example in faithfulness, compassion for others, and numerous other Christ-like qualities. As we all do our best to function in a God-pleasing manner in our respective roles, we can be sure that Christ is indeed the Head of our household, and is guiding and helping us in our family’s journey together.
Now, let’s review some things we should not do:
Do not act on information from your children or other members of your family. It never pays to react publicly to anything that family members tell us privately. Whatever they observed, or whatever was told to them, if the matter truly needs our intervention, we can be sure that God will bring it to our attention in another manner.
Use extreme caution in taking on your children’s battles. Inevitably, differences will arise between our children and other young people in our congregation or local community. While we can advise our children regarding the steps they should take, we should be very cautious about intervening directly; in the majority of cases, the children will resolve the matter on their own. If we approach the other child or his/her parents, the situation could very well escalate and ramifications or hurt feelings linger for the duration of our stay at that location. We want to be a guide rather than an advocate for our children.
Do not share problems. As pastors and ministers, we are called upon to deal with a variety of challenges that arise within the church. Those issues should never be discussed in front of our children. They should not be given either the burden or the right to hear about pastoral concerns or issues.
Do not have unreasonable expectations. Just because our two-year-old or twelve-year-old happens to live in the parsonage with us, we should not expect them to behave in a manner beyond their years. We must be understanding and patient with their maturity level and development, rather than applying impossibly high standards for behavior. And while we definitely want to teach our children to be respectful, obedient, and kind, we must never fall into the trap of requiring our children to live up to other people’s expectations.
Do not show favoritism—and do not go to the other extreme either. We must never favor our children or put them into positions of responsibility in the church when they are too young or spiritually inexperienced. On the other hand, they should not be restricted from participation or have awards withheld simply because they are the “pastor’s child” and the privilege or award should go to someone else.
Throughout Scripture, God is called our Father. In the New Testament, Jesus is called our Bridegroom. The two most powerful relationships in our world are those of husband and wife, and parent and child. If God created these relationships and identifies Himself in these roles, it is obvious that He places a high priority on these identities. We should too!
Our first ministry field is our home. John said that he had no greater joy than to hear that his children walked in truth (3 John 4). Balancing ministry demands with the needs of our spouses and children presents its challenges, but if we have the right attitude and approach, family life can more than just survive. It can thrive!
WE CANNOT EXPECT absolute perfection in every aspect of personal life. It would be ideal if every minister’s home was perfectly peaceful, we all had good paying jobs or successful businesses, bills were never incurred, and cars never broke down. Life generally does not work that way for any of us. Some children quietly rebel, and some children quite visibly rebel. Businesses fail or health collapses, and financial hardships come as a result. Circumstances occur over which we have very little if any control. However, God knows, and He can supply grace and courage so we can address even these challenges in a manner that is worthy of our vocation as divinely-called ministers.
THERE IS A UNIQUE BOND of fellowship between those of us who work shoulder to shoulder in the Apostolic Faith organization where God has called us to serve, and this relationship is vital to our success. Romans 12:4-5 points out that just as there are many parts to our physical bodies, there are many parts to the Body of Christ. God designed it so that we function together and are dependent upon each other, and this is especially true for us as ministers and pastors.
As we labor in our respective fields of service, mutual support of each other offers a number of significant benefits.
The blessing of encouragement. Proverbs 15:23 tells us, “A word spoken in due season, how good is it!” In many of Paul the Apostle’s letters, he inserts words of appreciation for someone who put forth an effort to encourage or “refresh” him. Jonathan and his armor bearer, Aaron and Hur, Joshua and Caleb, Paul and Silas, and many other individuals from Biblical history were among those who labored together, and what a support these men of God were for each other! Often, God did not conquer by one individual, but He gave victories to two or more individuals working side by side. And that is the key to victory for all of us.
The blessing of prayer support. When someone in our ranks is going through a difficult time, it does not escape notice. We pray that God will buoy up those who encounter such difficulties, knowing that prayer changes things. God’s Word tells us that while one can chase a thousand, two will “put ten thousand to flight” (Deuteronomy 32:30). Many times the challenges that face us as ministers cannot be shared with our family or the flock of God. However, God promised to respond to prayer, so those who lead His people need to pray with and for one another. There is power in united prayer!
The blessing of godly counsel. We can learn from the experiences of others. Whatever we face in our field of service for the Lord, very likely one of our ministerial peers has been through a similar circumstance. We read, “Without counsel purposes are disappointed: but in the multitude of counsellors they are established” (Proverbs 15:22). Older ministers have insight and perspective based upon years of personal experience. The writer of Proverbs 27:17 points out that “Iron sharpeneth iron,” and for those who labor in leadership roles, the guidance and advice of seasoned Gospel veterans in the ministry is an invaluable resource.
The blessing of fellowship. We are not standing alone—we have a great support group around us. Our fellowship as ministers of the Gospel goes much deeper than a common involvement in our church organization, or shared goals and direction. While those aspects enter into our comradeship, our bond is a unity rooted in the same deep understanding and shared experiences in the Gospel. It is a powerful force and a spiritual reality.
The Bible says that part of walking “worthy of the vocation wherewith ye are called” is the necessity of endeavoring “to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace” (Ephesians 4:1, 3). The fact that we are all sanctified individuals does not mean that unity is automatic. The word endeavor in this verse implies diligent effort, or “striving earnestly.” We must give serious attention to preserving oneness between us.
Differences of opinion will arise because God did not make us clones of each other, nor remove all our individual characteristics and preferences when He called us into the ministry. However, we cannot preach harmony without being in harmony. There are a number of guidelines that will help us to preserve the unity between ourselves and our fellow ministers.
Be mindful that it is Satan who accuses. According to Revelation 12:10, Satan is the “accuser of the brethren.” The enemy of our souls is the one who brings doubts and fears, and undermines our unity. He is the one who accuses us to our peers and accuses our peers to us. The devil is a liar, and we should never forget that. If a doubtful comment comes to us about one of our fellow ministers, we have an opportunity to deflate or inflate it. The Bible says “Where no wood is, there the fire goeth out” (Proverbs 26:20). We can either stoke the flame or douse it with water.
Respect differences. After we work with one another for a decade or two, we know each other well. We know one another’s strengths and we know one another’s weaknesses. Let us respect our differences, and remember that what we might identify as “personality flaws” are the aspects where God is working and helping that one to grow. The fact is, we are all works in progress, so it serves us well to regard others with compassion and mercy with respect to personality flaws.
Be subject to one another. Our opinions will not be the only perspective. God’s Word instructs us to submit to one another. Paul cautioned in 1 Corinthians 14:32 that “the spirits of the prophets are subject to the prophets,” so all matters of the church might be handled decently and in order.
Stay out of others’ challenges. From time to time, we may become aware of challenges that have arisen in other branch churches or with individuals who are not in our local congregations. It is best to refuse to pick up problems that do not pertain to us, unless the other pastor comes directly to us for counsel or advice. We can then voice our suggestions, but the matter still should be left in the local pastor’s hands for resolution.
Refuse to criticize. We should take care not to discuss or focus upon what we perceive as the weaknesses or missteps of another minister. Let us operate with the same spirit as David had when he said, “The Lord forbid that I should stretch forth mine hand against the Lord’s anointed” (1 Samuel 26:11).
Keep confidences. As ministers, we must respect the confidences of our fellow ministers. If a brother or sister minister shares personal burdens or challenges, this is done for the purpose of securing our counsel and prayer. We have no license to share this information with others.
Remember that we are examples. Our congregations observe how we ministers interact. They hear. We are examples to our congregations, and they will follow where we lead. If we make obvious our caring, support, and appreciation of our peers and our organization as a whole, they will be much more likely to follow suit.
As ministers of the Gospel, we come from different backgrounds. We have different personalities, and different talents. It is a good and amazing thing how God takes us as unique individuals, and through the attributes of lowliness, longsuffering, meekness, and forbearance, helps us to work together as one. Together, we make a mighty army. We may be relatively few in number, but we are mighty in desire, mighty in passion, mighty in purpose, and together we are one body. We are loyal one to another, we are subject one to another, we do our best to honor one another, and we stand beside one another.
The devil will try to divide us, but he will not succeed, because we have our direction from Heaven, so we carry on. We are in this work together as one in Christ, and with that purpose we can be sure that God accomplishes what He desires through us.
THERE ARE TWO ASPECTS that set us apart as an organization: our holiness way of life, which is based upon the doctrine of the Latter Rain Gospel, and our unity. We should not be surprised if Satan attempts to attack us in these two areas—and the attacks will not always come from outside. Paul cautioned the saints at Philippi, declaring that after his departure “shall grievous wolves enter in among you, not sparing the flock. Also of your own selves shall men arise…” (Acts 20:29-30). We want to be wise to the fact that ministers are not above the possibility of failure. We must always be conscious of our mandate from Heaven to preserve and preach the pure Gospel that has been given to us without wavering or compromise.
If we observe a spiritual misstep on the part of a fellow minister, we should go first to our brother with the intent of facilitating correction. If he does not receive the correction, we should let him know that it is our obligation to take the matter to the district superintendent under whom he is working, or to the Superintendent General. If we become aware of moral failure on the part of a fellow minister, we should offer to go with him to address the matter with his district superintendent or the Superintendent General. In both cases, we must be sure that our actions are done in a spirit of meekness (see Galatians 6:1), and for the sole purpose of protecting the integrity of our work.
WE SHOULD MAKE EVERY EFFORT to visually and audibly support other ministers when they are preaching. We should keep our attention directed at the one who is standing behind the pulpit. If we want our fellow ministers to say “amen” when we are preaching, we should do the same for them.
LABORING TOGETHER in the work of the Lord with the saints of God is a wonderful privilege. Gospel workers—the members of our congregations who serve the church in various capacities—are the backbone of our organization. As pastors and ministers, our relationship with them is that of companions in ministry.
Paul the Apostle often referred with affection to those who labored in the various Gentile churches of his day, commending them and expressing appreciation for their support and efforts in the cause of Christ. For example, he referenced the house of Stephanas in Achaia, commenting that “they have addicted themselves to the ministry of the saints” (1 Corinthians 16:15). He referred to the believers in Philippi as “my brethren dearly beloved and longed for, my joy and crown” (Philippians 4:1), admonishing them to stand fast in the Lord. He told the workers at Colosse that he continually thanked God for them, “praying always for you, since we heard of your faith in Christ Jesus, and of the love which ye have to all the saints” (Colossians 1:3-4). Clearly, his connection with those who worked with him in the Early Church was one of warm affection and spiritual fellowship. What a beautiful example this provides for us as we labor with the saints of God in our day!
Our relationship with the Gospel workers in our congregations must be built upon several key components. These include:
Shared vision and commitment. Those who participate in the work of the Lord in any capacity must first be spiritually qualified. In writing to the church at Philippi, Paul spoke of Clement and other fellow laborers, “whose names are in the book of life” (Philippians 4:3). Our common salvation is the basis for our shared vision and united efforts in the spread of this Latter Rain Gospel.
Mutual trust. Trust is the cornerstone of any good relationship. The workers in our congregations must have confidence in us, knowing that they can depend upon us to behave with integrity and faithfulness to God in every situation. Paul said that those who worked together with God were to give no offense in any thing, “that the ministry be not blamed: but in all things approving ourselves as the ministers of God” (2 Corinthians 6:3-4). We in turn must show trust and confidence in them.
Mutual submission. When Paul wrote to the church at Corinth, he pled with them to “submit yourselves…to every one that helpeth with us, and laboureth” (1 Corinthians 16:16). The Apostle Peter voiced the same theme when he admonished, “All of you be subject one to another, and be clothed with humility: for God resisteth the proud, and giveth grace to the humble” (1 Peter 5:5).1 Humility indicates that we are assuming a proper role in our relationship to others, never operating on the basis of self-assertion or personal importance. Humility builds healthy interdependence between us and the workers of the church. We understand that we need them, and they understand that they need us—because that is how God designed the church to operate.
We should view those who labor with us in the Lord’s work as worthy of our service, and our service is to guide them in following God. At times, our local church structure requires the appointment of individuals to certain roles such as department heads and team leaders. This can make it easy for us as pastors and ministers to think of ourselves more as employers than as guides. But if the Holy Spirit, from His high position and authority, can still function as a Guide (John 16:13), we should do the same.
Our attitude toward the Gospel workers who labor with us should demonstrate certain characteristics. These include:
When God called us into the ministry, we were given not only an amazing privilege, but a serious responsibility.
First of all, we obviously must lead. Forward progress does not occur unless someone leads the way, and that is the role God has given us as ministers and pastors. Moses led the Children of Israel out of bondage in Egypt. Joseph’s leadership spared Egypt and God’s people from devastating famine. Solomon led the people in the building of the temple at Jerusalem. Any endeavor in the work of the Lord will require leadership.2
We must equip the workers who labor with us. Our primary effort will be to equip them spiritually, encouraging them to spiritual maturity in the Lord. However, we will also need to provide what they need in a material sense, as God directs. Gideon equipped his band with trumpets, lamps, and pitchers to wage war against the Midianites (see Judges 7:16-17). We have a responsibility to facilitate the efforts of the workers, providing them with what they need for success to the best of our abilities.
We need to communicate effectively. Dialog between us and our coworkers is vital—and effective communication includes listening as well as expressing ourselves understandably. When expectations and goals are clearly transmitted and fully understood, progress is expedited.
We have a responsibility to encourage. There is life-changing power in encouragement! When David’s life was in danger from Saul, Jonathan stepped in with loving support (see 1 Samuel 20). The prophet Haggai encouraged the leaders of his day, saying, “Yet now be strong, O Zerubbabel, saith the Lord; and be strong, O Joshua, son of Josedech, the high priest; and be strong, all ye people of the land, saith the Lord, and work: for I am with you, saith the Lord of hosts” (Haggai 2:4). Jesus himself set a wonderful example of encouraging words when He walked this earth, telling His disciples and those who followed Him, “Be of good cheer…(Matthew 14:27), “Be not afraid” (Mark 6:50), and “Be of good comfort” (Matthew 9:22). Encouragement has strengthened many an individual to progress and excel in the Gospel.
We are called to support those who labor with us. Paul wrote to the Galatians, “As we have therefore opportunity, let us do good unto all men, especially unto them who are of the household of faith” (Galatians 6:10). We need to be behind the workers with prayers, faith, and backing.
We should make it a point to labor together with those who are working for the Lord in our local church. Notice that Nehemiah did not just issue instructions to those who built the walls around Jerusalem. He worked shoulder to shoulder with them, sharing their discomforts and their dangers.
Finally, we have a great responsibility to be an example to the workers in our congregation. We must demonstrate Christian living before the members of our congregations in areas such as:
In conclusion, it is good to remind ourselves that we are all “labourers together with God” (1 Corinthians 3:9). We want to encourage every participant in the work of the Lord to develop, to innovate, to learn from one another, all the while feeling loved, supported, and affirmed. Security and trust are the result when we put into practice leading through love, for genuine caring speaks volumes. As we stand heart to heart—united in faith, purpose, doctrine, and loyalty to God and to one another—we enable every worker to be their best as we work together for the salvation of souls and the furtherance of God’s kingdom!
WE MUST GUARD AGAINST coming across as the least bit arrogant in our dealings with the workers of the church, taking care that we never give the impression that we know it all. While we have a responsibility to lead, we should keep in mind that we serve in the role of ministers. Real love is neither demanding nor possessive, for 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 tells us that “Charity suffereth long, and is kind; … charity vaunteth not itself, … seeketh not her own…”
1 See also Philippians 2:3.
2 For more on this topic, see the section of this manual titled Leadership.
IN BOTH THE OLD AND NEW TESTAMENTS, the word translated pastor offers a picture of the relationship that God intended to exist between those of us who serve the church in ministerial roles, and those in the congregation. In the Old Testament, the Hebrew word translated pastor is ra-ah, and refers to one who “tends a flock.”1 The word translated pastors in Ephesians 4:11 comes from the Greek word poimen, and is a metaphor denoting a shepherd. This is an appropriate image, for Christ identified Himself as the “Good Shepherd,”2 and gave us a perfect example of one who is entrusted with the care of the flock of God.
The Apostle Peter used a shepherd metaphor when he wrote to the elders of the Early Church, “Feed the flock of God which is among you, taking the oversight thereof, not by constraint, but willingly; not for filthy lucre, but of a ready mind; neither as being lords over God’s heritage, but being ensamples to the flock. And when the chief Shepherd shall appear, ye shall receive a crown of glory that fadeth not away” (1 Peter 5:2-4).3 Those Early Church elders who read Peter’s words were well acquainted with the role of shepherds. They would have clearly grasped the picture of leaders of the church serving as under-shepherds who conscientiously and gently care for the people of God under the watchful eye of the Good Shepherd.
Various passages in Scripture give us insight into the responsibilities of those who lead the flock of God. The prophet Ezekiel addressed “the shepherds of Israel,” and proclaimed, “Thus saith the Lord God unto the shepherds; Woe be to the shepherds of Israel that do feed themselves! should not the shepherds feed the flocks? Ye eat the fat, and ye clothe you with the wool, ye kill them that are fed: but ye feed not the flock. The diseased have ye not strengthened, neither have ye healed that which was sick, neither have ye bound up that which was broken, neither have ye brought again that which was driven away, neither have ye sought that which was lost; but with force and with cruelty have ye ruled them” (Ezekiel 34:2-4). Clearly, the assumption was that a faithful shepherd would provide nourishment for the sheep, strengthen those who were feeble, tend to the injuries of those who were hurt, bring back those who had been driven away, and seek those who were lost.
The Apostle Paul’s final words to the elders of the church at Ephesus also refer to “feeding” [nourishing] as one of the responsibilities of those who lead the flock of God. He said, “Take heed therefore unto yourselves, and to all the flock, over the which the Holy Ghost hath made you overseers, to feed the church of God, which he hath purchased with his own blood” (Acts 20:28).4 Other references to shepherds throughout Scripture help us to understand that, in our role of spiritual shepherds, we must be prepared to defend the flock from attack,5 to guide and give direction,6 and know the individual sheep well.7
Jesus’ description of Himself as the Good Shepherd offers a beautiful picture of the attitude we need to have toward those who make up our congregations. He exemplifies the love we should have by stating that “the good shepherd giveth his life for the sheep” (John 10:11). As shepherds of the flock, we should be approachable, responsive, gentle, and genuinely filled with concern and compassion. Our relationship with the congregation should be based on truth and trust, rather than power. Our attitude should be that of humility and a desire to serve, for Jesus said, “He that is greatest among you, let him be as the younger; and he that is chief, as he that doth serve” (Luke 22:26).
The Body of Christ that makes up our congregations is a work in progress. In any given church we have spiritual infants, veterans, and those in between. At times, the responsibilities of caring for our congregations may be challenging. Paul faced many challenges as he worked with those in the Early Church, including being “in perils among false brethren” and having responsibility for “the care of all the churches” (2 Corinthians 11:26, 28). Yet he could say, “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me” (Philippians 4:13). He wrote to the believers at Corinth, “Not that we are sufficient of ourselves to think any thing as of ourselves; but our sufficiency is of God” (2 Corinthians 3:5). He had learned the secret of relying upon God, and we must do likewise.
When we fulfill the responsibilities outlined in God’s Word toward the people in our congregations in a loving, conscientious, and faithful manner, we will be building the type of relationship God expects between His under-shepherds and the flock of God that we have been entrusted with.
In Jeremiah 3:15, God gave a wonderful prophecy. “And I will give you pastors according to mine heart, which shall feed you with knowledge and understanding.” May we endeavor, by the help and grace of God, to be ministers of the Gospel according to the heart of God himself, and dedicate ourselves to building a relationship with the flock of God that is rooted in humility and love.
THERE WILL BE TIMES in our ministry when conflict occurs between us and a congregation member. It is important to look beyond the occurrence itself, and respond in a godly manner, which may include the need to ask for or extend forgiveness. We cannot afford to yield to self-pity, or to harbor any feeling of resentment, ill will, or defensiveness. We must guard against responding to conflict in a petty or destructive manner. Instead, we should set an example of grace and mercy, remembering our challenge to “be diligent that ye may be found of him in peace, without spot, and blameless” (2 Peter 3:14).
ONE PART of our responsibility as ministers—and an aspect that is especially important if we are pastors—is to be sure that we follow the Biblical admonition to be “given to hospitality” (1 Timothy 3:2). While the pastor should not be expected to assume the total responsibility of gracious reaching out in Christian love, it is an area where he or she should set an example whenever possible. While our homes must be our place of refuge and restoration, this does not preclude us from needing to extend ourselves in this manner from time to time as well. Balance is key, but we want to keep in mind that when we invite congregation members and visitors into our homes, our hospitality may well be opening a door of unity and fellowship that allows us to minister to them even more effectively in the days ahead.
AS MINISTERS, we must be careful not to deal with situations that should be handled by the pastor, unless he has assigned the matter to us. If a church member comes to us with a concern, we should direct that one to the pastor, as he is in the best position to know the circumstances and personalities involved in situations that arise.
WHEN AN ASSISTING MINISTER continually showers public and private support for the pastor, this not only assists in cultivating a healthy relationship between the pastor and the congregation, but also between the assisting minister and the congregation.
1 This word occurs in such passages as Jeremiah 3:15; 10:21; and 23:1.
2 See John 10:11, 14
3 No doubt the visual picture of a shepherd and his sheep had been impressed upon Peter’s mind when Christ commissioned Peter with the words “Feed my sheep” in His exchange with Peter by the shore of the Sea of Galilee (see John 21:15-17).
4 The word overseer in this passage is from the Greek word episkopos, and has a similar meaning as shepherd. It literally means “one who watches over.”
5 See 1 Samuel 17:34-35.
6 See Psalm 23:3.
7 See John 10:14, 27.
OUR GOAL AS PASTORS AND MINISTERS is to labor “for the perfecting of the saints, . . . for the edifying of the body of Christ” (Ephesians 4:12). The individuals who regularly attend our churches around the world represent a wide spectrum of human needs, and we will be called upon to interact with many who have specific circumstances and/or issues that require careful attention. While it would be impossible to address every category in this manual, we will review guidelines for dealing with some of the major ones.
Backsliders
The term “backslider” encompasses individuals with a wide range of attitudes toward the church and the Gospel in general. For backsliders who continue to attend church services or show an interest in seeking the Lord, we want to do everything we can to encourage them. God’s Word urges, “Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the Lord, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon” (Isaiah 55:7). The devil may tell those who have turned away from God there can be no forgiveness for them, or deceive them into supposing the church will never accept them back. We want to be sure our treatment of them clearly communicates the fallacy of such a perspective. We love those who have left the faith, and pray God will recover people “out of the snare of the devil, who are taken captive by him at his will” (2 Timothy 2:26). We want everyone to make Heaven, so we show kindness and a genuine concern for a backslider’s spiritual restoration.
At the other end of the spectrum, we may at times deal with backsliders who are accusatory or contentious. When this is the case, we must not be afraid to convey clearly that we love this work, we support the ministry, and we uphold the doctrines as taught by the Apostolic Faith organization. However, unless the individual is one who “soweth discord among brethren” (Proverbs 6:19), even a discussion such as this should be carried out with civility and concern for the person’s never-dying soul.
Those with mental or emotional problems
Great care must be taken in dealing with those who attend our services while evidencing mental confusion, erratic behavior, or symptoms of personality disorders. At times, such problems have roots in physical causes, although some symptoms can also be caused by spiritual issues. Obviously, a condition caused by a physical impairment will require a much different approach than a condition rooted in sin or spiritual issues.
As pastors and ministers, we have a dual responsibility. First, we realize that troubled individuals often turn to the ministry for help for a variety of reasons. These may include a lack of knowledge or access to mental health care resources, financial concerns, or simply a sense that churches want to help people. We need to respond appropriately, looking to God to give us the insight we need to handle each situation. We are not mental health professionals, and we must be aware of our limitations in offering that type of help, but we can do our best to promote a reassuring and accepting environment, overcome fears, and offer the help and comfort of the Lord.
As we reach out to the individual, we must also be mindful that we have a responsibility to our congregations. We are charged with maintaining the spirit of worship in the sanctuary of God, so disturbances to the service must be handled carefully and with compassion. If there are indicators that erratic behavior could become violent or dangerous in any way, we must take necessary steps to protect our congregation. Ushers should be alert for disruptions, and be trained in the appropriate response should such an event occur.
Those with physical impairments
As we labor in the Gospel of Jesus Christ, we want to follow His example of caring for those with physical limitations. We must do everything we can to make access to worship, ministry, and fellowship a reality for the disabled or those with special needs.
Just as important as physical accommodation is an attitude that genuinely welcomes, appreciates, and includes the physically challenged. Paul reminded the Corinthians that “Those members of the body, which seem to be more feeble, are necessary: and those members of the body, which we think to be less honourable, upon these we bestow more abundant honour; and our uncomely parts have more abundant comeliness. For our comely parts have no need: but God hath tempered the body together, having given more abundant honour to that part which lacked” (1 Corinthians 12:22-24). Disregard or exclusion of those with physical impairments should have no part in the Body of Christ.
We must be careful when preaching on the Biblical accounts of the disabled that we in no way disrespect members of our audience. We may have those in our congregation who cannot speak, or are hearing or sight impaired. The Bible frequently mentions the lame, the blind, the deaf, and the dumb, but we must be cautious in making spiritual parallels. For example, we should not imply that physical blindness equates to spiritual darkness. We should also avoid suggesting that any disability is a tragedy, as many who deal with physical challenges in our day cope very successfully. This is not a matter of being politically correct; it is a matter of showing respect and preserving the dignity of those with disabilities.
Those who are impoverished
There will always be impoverished people who will look to us for help. Many of these are truly in desperate need. In Matthew 25:34-45, Jesus reminded His followers that a neglect of the needs of the poor is ultimately a neglect of Himself. The Apostle Paul told the church elders in Ephesus, “I have shewed you all things, how that so labouring ye ought to support the weak, and to remember the words of the Lord Jesus, how he said, It is more blessed to give than to receive” (Acts 20:35). The Apostle John wrote, “But whoso hath this world’s good, and seeth his brother have need, and shutteth up his bowels of compassion from him, how dwelleth the love of God in him? (1 John 3:17). Clearly, one evidence of the love of God dwelling in us is a love for the poor.
We believe that the primary purpose of our church is to point people towards committing their lives to Christ and then maturing in this Latter Rain Gospel. Still, though relief organizations and governmental agencies have a major role in responding to material needs, we also have a duty in this area. Providing assistance to those in want must be done with wisdom and stewardship. At times, a fund is maintained by the congregation for this purpose. As ministers and pastors, we have a responsibility to effectively manage the resources of the church. While we have genuine compassion for the poor, we should not respond to needs emotionally, but rather, prayerfully and with the guidance of the Lord.
There are times when we may feel led to discreetly mention a particular financial need to the workers of the church, such as when a disaster takes place that impacts many. We do not take a collection in the church for such needs, but members of the congregation may place offerings designated for relief into the tithe box.
Those who promote false teachings
The presence of false teachers has been a problem for the Church in every age since the time of Christ. Jesus warned His followers, “Beware of false prophets, which come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravening wolves” (Matthew 7:15). The Apostle Peter cautioned, “There shall be false teachers among you, who privily shall bring in damnable heresies, . . .” (2 Peter 2:1). As ministers and pastors, we have a God-given duty to defend the faith and protect the flock of God from those who promote false teachings. We are to do this both by faithfully expounding the truth (see Titus 1:9), and by putting false teachers to silence by refusing to grant them an opportunity to voice false doctrine in the church (see Titus 1:10-11).
Some may question just how much false doctrine makes a person a false teacher. The answer is found in 1 Timothy 1:3, where Paul exhorted the younger minister, “Charge some that they teach no other doctrine.” As those charged with preserving the truth, we must not permit the simple truths of the Word of God to be compromised.
Those who disagree with church policy
At times, it may come to our attention that an individual is participating in the work of the church who is not qualified to do so. If the problem is a failure to align to church policy, it may be advisable to wait and pray for a time, allowing the Lord to deal with the heart of the person involved. Some have reversed previous personal decisions and have decided to comply with church policy. The exception would be if tarrying for a time creates new challenges that could be avoided by addressing the matter immediately.
We do not advocate looking around with the intent of “finding out” those who are failing in some area, but we also cannot have someone continue to participate in the work who refuses to abide by church policy. If we are unsure as to where the organization stands on a particular issue or of what step to take next, then we should contact our district superintendent or the Superintendent General with our question.
We do not need to fear addressing church guidelines with those who persist in non-compliance. They will respect us for kindly conveying to them our boundaries. We owe it to the individuals involved to address the issue; we owe it to our congregations; and we owe it to our fellow ministers and pastors, because not addressing it undermines all of the above.
When we discuss a church policy matter with an individual, that person should leave the discussion with an understanding of four facts:
As pastors and ministers, if we observe a seeming failure in an individual at another location, we must have mercy and understanding regarding a matter we might think is not being addressed. What we may not know is that it is being addressed, but cautiously, and with a little time.
Those who oppose or rebel
As we labor in the ministry, we will be opposed at times. It is important to distinguish between an individual who is rebelling, and one who simply has a differing viewpoint. Everyone will not be delighted with us, even though we do our best to be kind and gentle. We must not let that sway us. In fact, we can view every opposing view as an opportunity to learn.
At times we may have to deal with individuals who want to call themselves “Apostolic” but do not wish to subject themselves to the leadership of this work. Sometimes such people will attempt to persuade us by saying, “The Lord showed me,” or “The Spirit told me.” God is faithful to speak to hearts, but He will not reveal something that conflicts with His Word.
One point that the Bible clearly teaches is that we are to submit ourselves to those God has placed in positions of authority in the church (see Hebrews 13:17). Subordination is a Bible doctrine. Those who submit themselves to the order God has established live a rich life within that church order, while those who resist or rebel live in varying degrees of frustration. The deeper issue is subjection to God, and individuals face this issue in any church where they choose to attend.
We must not allow ourselves to overreact to individuals who oppose us or rebel against the authority of the church. It is important that we not speak unkindly of them. Our attitude should be one of gentleness and reason, even toward those who make a decision that is different than what we stand for as a church. We must take care not to burn bridges and destroy relationships, because sometimes individuals reconsider their former positions.
Our responsibility is to make sure there is no confusion in the church. We do not elevate peripheral issues by addressing them from the pulpit, nor dignify negative perspectives by giving them more time and energy than needed. Our focus must continue to be on lifting up the Name of Jesus, no matter what forces oppose us.
Those who depart
We want everyone to love and value this Gospel and the Apostolic Faith organization as we do. However, at times some will choose to leave the church. It saddens us, but we gain nothing by compromising in an attempt to dissuade them. We must determine to remain steadfast in the faith, “rooted and built up in him, and stablished in the faith, as ye have been taught” (Colossians 2:7).
We should be kind to those who depart; we do not chastise or rebuke them unless that is our clear ministerial duty because of their actions. Our desire is to keep the door open for those who perhaps only temporarily have chosen another way. As we faithfully stand for the pure, sound doctrine and practices upheld by this organization, we maintain a place for those who have departed to come back to. In addition, we set a godly example for those who are watching.
Paul the Apostle had his share of disappointments in this regard. He said, in 2 Timothy 4:16, “At my first answer no man stood with me, but all men forsook me.” However, in the next verse, he stated, “Notwithstanding the Lord stood with me, and strengthened me.” So we are never alone, even when we feel lonely. We have the assurance that God stands with us, and we have the saints of God around the world who stand with us, too, in love and appreciation for this Latter Rain Gospel.
Those with moral issues
An individual whose life does not align with the moral standards upheld in the Word of God cannot participate in the work of the Apostolic Faith organization. For example, if a person is living in adultery, even though the marriage is legal, he or she is ineligible to take an active role in the church, although they are welcome to attend the services.1
If moral failure occurs in the life of one who is participating in the work, it must be immediately addressed, usually privately, and always with the idea of salvaging the soul. Our desire is not to shame the individual, but to do our best to encourage them to make the matter right.
Restoration to God is certainly possible through genuine repentance (see Isaiah 55:7). When it occurs, sin is forgiven. However, restoration to God does not undo the fact that there are consequences for moral error. Our approach in addressing issues of immorality should not be viewed as punitive. It would more accurately be described as protective: protective of the individual who failed, and protective of the integrity of the work and the fact that we stand for holy living.
Sex Offenders
In our congregations, we likely have those who are or have been victims of sexual harassment, molestation, and rape. As guardians of the flock of God, we have a responsibility to be alert for predators, protective of our congregations, and supportive of victims.2
The term “registered sex offender” covers a wide range of perpetrators. It includes older teens convicted of being consensually intimate with a minor. It also includes pedophiles who have molested dozens of children over a period of decades. Each is a serious offense, but they may be approached by us differently. The type of crime will have an impact on how we address it. Therefore, it is appropriate for us to request details related to the crime committed. That can include asking questions of the perpetrator and then confirming his answers with a parole officer and/or gaining information through an internet database.
As a church organization we comply with restraining orders issued by the authorities. We can also exercise our prerogative to bar an individual from the church premises. We should be aware that perpetrators can purposefully conduct themselves in a compliant and apparently submissive manner, which in and of itself does not mean that they should be allowed to attend church. Each case must be addressed independently.
If a victim of the offender attends our church and objects to the perpetrator attending, then the perpetrator should be banned. If the perpetrator is allowed to attend, it is appropriate to ask him to comply with a written conditional attendance agreement. As an example, that agreement could stipulate that the offender arrive for church immediately before the service begins, sit in a pre-designated spot, remain seated until the service ends, and leave immediately following. Any violation of the agreement would cause an immediate revocation of the privilege to attend.
We will not please everyone. To those who view our approach too stringent, we remind them that we are not responsible for the actions that necessitated the protective measures. To those who view our approach too lenient, we remind them that souls are at stake. We pray for wisdom, asking God to help us make the right decision in these matters. We cannot be afraid to impose restrictions, particularly where the welfare of our congregations is jeopardized. At the same time, we do not want to be guilty of imposing undue restraint where circumstances do not warrant it.
When these types of situations arise, we should feel free to solicit input from our district superintendent or the Superintendent General in determining our approach. Proverbs 11:14 states, “Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety.”
In conclusion, as we interact with individuals in the above categories, or with those who have other specific issues and needs, we must always be guided by the example of Jesus. We read in Matthew 9:36, “When he saw the multitudes, he was moved with compassion on them.” The phrase “moved with compassion” could be translated “gripped with compassion.” We want to be gripped with compassion toward all, but particularly toward those who have been victimized. Jesus knew the hearts of those He ministered to—He saw their needs, understood their problems, was aware of their sins—and yet He was moved with compassion. That is the spirit and attitude we want to have as well.
1 For more on this subject, see the section of this manual titled The Sanctity of Marriage.
2 See the Apostolic Faith Church Safety and Security Manual for a more extensive explanation of how matter of this nature must be handled.
ONE OF THE PRIMARY PURPOSES of the Apostolic Faith organization since our inception has been to lead men and women to the place of repentance and forgiveness for sin, and to an understanding of the Latter Rain Gospel. This necessitates being alert to opportunities to expand our outreach into new fields.
Typically, establishing a church in a new area begins with interest expressed in our organization. The initial contact may have occurred when an individual or group received Gospel literature printed by the Apostolic Faith, visited our church website, or had a personal contact with someone connected to this work. Often, there is a period of correspondence with headquarters, in which the Biblical doctrines and practices upheld by this organization are explained in greater detail. Gradually, this correspondence provides insight about the group’s understanding of our doctrinal position and its willingness to follow the practices and guidelines of the Apostolic Faith work. In time, this may lead to a visit from a representative of headquarters, at which time the possibility of the group becoming a part of the organization may be explored as the Spirit leads.
In a case where a group of associated groups or church congregations has expressed interest in becoming a part of the Apostolic Faith, it may take a number of visits from a headquarters representative before we can be assured that they are all one with us in doctrine and are willing to adopt our methods of operation. This Minister’s Manual may serve as a basis for explaining in detail what we stand for and how we operate. Leaders of the congregations can also be encouraged to view the services posted on our organization’s website as a means of gaining understanding about how we conduct our services.
Meetings in Homes and Temporary Facilities
Many Apostolic Faith branch churches started from gatherings of believers in private homes. We encourage this method, especially in locations where there are only a few believers. Holding Bible studies, prayer meetings, or even simple church services in a home, and inviting neighbors, friends, and relatives to attend, is in accord with the pattern established in Scripture. Members of the Early Church taught the Gospel in private homes as well as in larger assemblies.<sup>1<sup> In some towns, private homes served as meeting places for smaller churches,<sup>2<sup> while at other times, groups simply gathered in a home. According to Acts 10, it was in one such meeting in the home of the Roman centurion Cornelius that God revealed to Peter that the Gospel message was for all who would believe in Jesus Christ.
Obviously, any home meetings held under the auspices of the Apostolic Faith organization must uphold the doctrines and practices of this organization, and operate under the supervision of the nearest District Superintendent.
Church services in homes usually are quite simple. Sometimes they are structured along the lines of a Sunday school class or informal Bible study. If there are enough people present, the program may consist of singing, perhaps a testimony or two, Bible reading, a brief message, and a time of prayer. In some cases, small groups have found that watching services on the corporate website at www.apostolicfaith.org/video-archive can be a real blessing and uplift. Workers from an Apostolic Faith branch church can also go, whenever that is possible, to support the efforts of those holding meetings in areas where there is no established church as yet.
If space constraints permit, those who attend home meetings should be encouraged to invite others who might be interested in gathering with the group of believers. If the numbers grow and a solid foundation of workers develops, it may be possible in time to secure a larger facility where Gospel services could be held.
Most new churches meet at least for a time in rented facilities such as schools, hotel conference rooms, or community centers. Though the meeting location is temporary, those in charge should make every effort to create a warm and inviting environment. The facility should be clean, provide comfortable seating and adequate parking, and be equipped with a suitable sound system. Signage directing visitors to the meeting area, along with flowers and a display of Gospel literature, can help to create a friendly atmosphere. The goal should be to make visitors feel welcome and encourage them to come again.
Evangelistic programs/outreaches
Conducting evangelistic campaigns is another form of outreach into a new field that has brought fruitful results in the Apostolic Faith organization. Typically, we hold campaigns of this nature to ascertain whether there is interest or potential for developing a work in a particular location. In years past, churches of a neighborhood or community nature occasionally have opened their doors to us. However, we have found that it is often best to conduct our campaigns in rented conference rooms or other community facilities, in order to avoid restrictions on our preaching or manner of worship.
A well-organized evangelistic campaign will have at least five major components:
Expansion into new fields takes far more than simply seeing opportunities. We must be certain that our timing and the steps we take toward evangelizing and/or establishing a work in a new location do not get ahead of God. Wherever God guides, He provides. Ultimately, the work will grow and expand according to local response in any given area, and God’s sovereign will. If He wants us to move forward, He will open the doors, and we must always align ourselves with His purpose and timing. When we do, a small seed sown in good soil and watered with prayer can result in a bountiful spiritual harvest for God’s kingdom.
IT IS IMPORTANT for us to remember that while growth is the natural state of a healthy organism, there are different kinds of growth, some of which have nothing to do with numbers. A church can be alive and growing spiritually even though the number of people attending remains constant. If those in the church are growing “in grace, and in the knowledge of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ” (2 Peter 3:18), and following His will for their lives, both individually and corporately, that church is experiencing true growth. Conversely, a church can see its numbers increase, and still be spiritually lifeless. While expansion is important and we should always be alert for outreach opportunities, numerical increase in our numbers is not our primary goal.
WE HAVE FOUND that entire sanctification and the sanctity of marriage are two doctrinal teachings that we must explore especially carefully and thoroughly with those who express an interest in becoming a part of the Apostolic Faith work. It is necessary to be certain that we are unified in understanding, as some people who generally agree with our teachings have a slightly or totally different view of these two doctrines.
1 See Acts 5:42 and 20:20.
2 See Romans 16:5, 1 Corinthians 16:19, and Philemon 1:2.
IT IS BIBLICAL for the church to set apart individuals in the ministry for special tasks of leadership.1 In the Apostolic Faith organization this is done through ordination and/or installation. Ordination Services and Installation Services are handled in a similar manner.
Ordination Services
Ordination is the public ceremony by which leaders of the church authorize a minister to serve as a pastor or other designated role in the Apostolic Faith work.2 While ordination does vest in that individual the legal authority to perform certain civil duties and conduct business as a representative of the organization, we view the event primarily as a solemn, spiritual charge and commissioning as much as a legal or liturgical rite. It is important as an acknowledgement of the prior divine call, commission, and qualification of the person, though it is not a requirement for serving as a minister.3
In the Apostolic Faith organization, we typically hold ordinations during a regular church service or during an ordinance service. At the appointed time during the meeting, the Superintendent General or the District Superintendent presiding over the ordination ceremony announces to the congregation that the designated minister is to be ordained at that time. Often, he gives a brief explanation of the Scriptural purpose and basis for ordination. Then, in accordance with examples provided in the Word of God,4 members of the ministry and elders lay their hands on the minister, and pray together for divine anointing upon him or her.5 Those who are present join in prayer that God’s blessing will rest upon the life and service of the one being ordained.
We believe that it is the Holy Spirit who confers authority and power for ministry, rather than those who participate in the ordination ceremony. No particular person or group of individuals is essential to the ordination process; it can be done by any minister or ministers who have been granted permission to do so by the leadership of the Apostolic Faith organization.
Installation Services
Installation is similar to ordination in that it is a public ceremony by which leaders in the Apostolic Faith organization appoint a minister to a designated leadership role in our work. The main difference is that an installation does not include legally-issued credentials or certification; rather, it represents a corporate appointment or designation within the organizational structure of the Apostolic Faith. Often, installation appointments relate to supervision of geographic districts where our churches are located, or serving on a Board of Trustees.
In some countries or regions of the Apostolic Faith work, installation services are held for pastors, though this is not required when a minister assumes a pastoral role. At the headquarters church, installation services relate specifically to the appointment of District Superintendents.
The service itself is generally conducted much like an ordination, by the laying on of hands by qualified ministers and elders.
In the United States, the credentials and authorization of both ordained and installed pastors can be revoked at any time by the Superintendent General if the minister’s faith and practice fail to align to the Gospel of Christ, or cease to be in accordance with the doctrines, constitution, and bylaws of the Apostolic Faith organization. In countries outside of the United States, the District Superintendent is authorized to do this.
1 See Acts 1:21-26; 6:1-6; 13:2-3.
2 See the topic Ministerial Credentials and Ordination for more information on this subject.
3 In some cases, individuals in our work have assumed the role of pastor because a sudden vacancy in the pastoral ranks necessitated immediate placement of a minister in a particular location. In those cases, unless the pastoral assignment is designated as being only temporary, the acting pastor may be ordained at a time of the District Superintendent’s choosing. During the interim, he is allowed to perform all of the functions of a pastor except those for which the State requires an ordained minister.
4 See 1 Timothy 4:14 and 2 Timothy 1:6.
5 In light of the Biblical role of women in the church, the Apostolic Faith organization makes no distinction between men and women in the work of the ministry. Godly women who give evidence of the call of God upon their lives, and who qualify spiritually, are accorded the same privileges as men to labor in the ministry. See the topic Women Preachers for more information on this subject.
MINISTERS MEETINGS are regularly scheduled events in the Apostolic Faith organization. At these sessions, those who serve as ministers and pastors in our work gather to study topics relevant to our ministerial responsibilities, and to hone our abilities through structured training, that we may be “able ministers of the new testament” (2 Corinthians 3:6).
At the headquarters church in Portland, ministers meetings are held every year during the spring special meetings and the summer camp meeting. All ministers and pastors, both active and retired, are encouraged to attend. These times remind us that we are not serving in isolation, no matter what our geographic location or proximity to other Apostolic Faith churches. Rather, we are part of a divinely ordained and God-commissioned group, and we approach the responsibilities of our calling shoulder to shoulder with fellow ministers from around the world. As we share plans and goals and learn together, we come away feeling better equipped and inspired to putting our best efforts into moving the Gospel forward.<sup>1<sup>
In addition to the sessions held during special meetings and camp meeting, the ministerial staff in Portland meets from time to time throughout the year. Ministers meetings are also held during regional camp meetings and at district meetings, and should be held in individual churches where there are several on the local ministerial staff. Even if there are only two or three ministers at a given location, it is a good plan to meet occasionally to discuss ideas, plans, and details of the work.
Godly counsel is of particular benefit to those of us in the ministry. We need one another! Often the issues which face us cannot be shared with our families or the flock of God, but Scripture records numerous examples of spiritual leaders who conferred with each other regarding matters affecting the church. For example, the disciples discussed with elders of the early church the appointment of deacons to care for the widows (Acts 6), the prophets and teachers at Antioch sought God’s direction together until the Spirit revealed that Barnabas and Saul were to be sent out as missionaries (Acts 13), and the apostles and elders in Jerusalem came together to confer about the danger of reverting to the law of Moses (Acts 15).
All of us can learn from the experiences of others. When we face challenges in our work for the Lord, those challenges are not unique—very likely some of our peers have been through similar circumstances. Older ministers can offer insights and perspective based upon years of experience in the Gospel. Proverbs 27:17 tells us that “Iron sharpens iron,” and the guidance and advice of seasoned Gospel veterans is an invaluable resource. Ministers meetings are one venue where we can tap into that experience.
The ministers meetings held in Portland during special meetings and camp meeting have an annual theme. Over the years, these themes have included: Higher Ground, Sharing God’s Love, Follow Me, Hold the Fort, America’s Mission Field, Lessons in Leadership, The Art of Preaching, God Gave the Increase, and Equipped to Serve. Individual sessions under these headings have developed topics such as evangelism, helping troubled people, marriage and family issues, financial planning, enduring hardness, ministerial protocol, holding funerals, and a wide range of other topics. Various ministers are selected to act as facilitators/speakers for the sessions. In many cases, handouts and topic summaries are distributed to attendees. Transcripts and videos of these sessions are posted on the minister’s page of the website at www.apostolicfaith.org.
In conclusion, the benefit of gathering together as ministers is much more than information shared or techniques we learn. An additional benefit comes in the cultivating of our unity of purpose. We are persuaded that this work has a unique calling in the world, and that the teachings and way of life the Latter Rain Gospel advocates are relevant today. Ministers meetings help us to keep moving forward with a unified purpose. Unity is not a goal that can be achieved once and then relegated to the sidelines for a number of years. It requires a constant process of communicating, adapting, evaluating, and learning. To walk in unity, we must have a shared understanding of how we operate, and ministers meetings are one of the ways we achieve this.
<sup2>1<sup2> For more information regarding interaction between pastors and ministers, see the section of this manual titled Relationships with Other Ministers.
THOSE OF US who serve as pastors in the Apostolic Faith organization occasionally hold meetings specifically for the people of God who are part of our church. We refer to these gatherings as “Workers Meetings.” At times, we open such meetings to all who are involved in any capacity in the work of the Lord. In other circumstances, we invite only a particular group, such as the ushers, Sunday school teachers, or musicians. While our workers meetings may include instruction and challenge, our goal always should be to uplift, appreciate, and inspire our companions in ministry, remembering that we are all “labourers together with God” (1 Corinthians 3:9).<sup>1<sup>
Workers meetings are held for a variety of purposes.
Plan. When the local church undertakes a construction project, seasonal program, or community outreach, planning must occur. We often gather small groups of individuals from the church family who have appropriate skills or backgrounds, and work with them to establish direction, discuss implementation, assign tasks, and track progress, for Scripture tells us, “Without counsel purposes are disappointed: but in the multitude of counselors they are established” (Proverbs 15:22).
Through the years, workers meetings have sometimes been held to discuss the purchase of a piece of property, securing of a different facility, refurbishing the sanctuary, or other business matters. We recommend using ordinance meetings as a time to accomplish this.
Inform. Those who are involved in the work obviously have an interest in the forward movement of the Gospel, so it is appropriate to bring them up-to-date occasionally on what has been happening in other locations around the world. Presentations related to a newly-emerging branch of the international work, the outreach at headquarters, or a particular missionary trip goal has proved to be a blessing and inspiration to the people of God. We have found that the more the people of God are informed about a particular outreach, the more wholeheartedly they will support it.
Encourage. Challenges come to every congregation. In such times, we may feel a need to gather those who carry the burden of the work and do what we can to encourage hearts. There are many Scriptural precedents for this. When the Children of Israel faced the Red Sea, Moses reassured them, “Fear ye not, stand still, and see the salvation of the Lord” (Exodus 14:13). On the eve of crossing over into Canaan, Joshua encouraged the people that God “will without fail drive out from before you the Canaanites, and the Hittites, and the Hivites, and the Perizzites, and the Girgashites, and the Amorites, and the Jebusites” (Joshua 3:10). The Apostle Paul’s letters often included words of support to his fellow workers. Encouragement has strengthened many an individual and group to overcome hard places.
Equip. As pastors, we have a responsibility to facilitate the efforts of the workers in the church. Meetings with groups such as Sunday school teachers, custodial staff, greeters, and musicians will help us understand their challenges and respond to their needs as God directs. In the spiritual realm, workers meetings offer a setting where we can teach and equip those involved in the work to be good altar workers, to give a strong testimony, to be friendly and welcoming to visitors, and other “family matters” of this nature.
Admonish. The New Testament is full of admonitions given by the Apostles to various groups in the Early Church. Peter taught, “All of you be subject one to another, and be clothed with humility: for God resisteth the proud, and giveth grace to the humble” (1 Peter 5:5). Paul exhorted believers in Philippi to “stand fast in one spirit, with one mind striving together for the faith of the gospel” (Philippians 1:27), and instructed the Ephesian church to “keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace” (Ephesians 4:3). We too have a charge to “reprove, rebuke, exhort with all longsuffering and doctrine” (2 Timothy 4:2). Admonitions given in a group setting may eliminate the necessity of dealing personally with challenges that could otherwise come up. It will also band the workers together as a united force for God, and in unity there is strength.
Warn. There may be times when, as shepherds of the flock, we must identify errors that could threaten the spiritual well-being of our congregations. Paul cautioned the elders at Ephesus, declaring that after his departure “grievous wolves [shall] enter in among you, not sparing the flock. Also, of your own selves shall men arise…” (Acts 20:29-30). Like Paul, we must warn the people of God about harmful influences that can come from both outside and inside the church. Workers meetings traditionally have been the place where this is done, as such matters are best handled when only the family of God is present.
In conclusion, laboring together in the church with the saints of God requires unity, cooperation, and commitment to a common purpose. Workers meetings are one way we can cultivate these attributes, and thus influence God’s people to continue to move forward in alignment with God’s purposes for our organization.
<sup2>1<sup2> For more about our connection with those in our congregations, see the topic Relationship with Workers in the Church in this manual.
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